I jokingly refer to these as State of the Union conversations; this conversation is meant as a reflection of how the relationship is going in this moment. It's a time to bring up things that might be more challenging or sensitive, things that are going well, things that need attention, requests, offers, and more. Why is this important? Because being reactive in the moment rarely ever gets our needs met. When we bring things up as we are activated, we are much more likely to b

Most people have some negative or challenging experiences regarding sex. Whether it revolves around trauma, sexual dysfunction, sexual frustration, self-consciousness, social conditioning, unkind feedback, or simply a wandering mind, many of us have a very difficult time staying present for our pleasure. So what do we do about it? Let me introduce Sensate Focus Exercises. We'll call it SFE. It is one of the most widely known and effective sex therapies, and though it was deve

Most of us have felt it: that sinking feeling in the pit of our stomach when we realize we’ve made a mistake, hurt someone, or gotten something wrong. Our brains often treat these moments like emergencies, flooding us with shame, defensiveness, or panic. But why does it feel so terrifying to be wrong? And how can we move from fear into accountability? Why Being Wrong Feels So Threatening Our brains equate mistakes with danger. We are physically wired to see threats before saf

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Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) is a safe, effective way to enhance traditional psychotherapy by increasing your brain's capacity to create new pathways. It is considered a form of psychedelic assisted therapy; it is fully legal when practiced with a licensed provider, closely regulated for quality and safety, and its use is supported by decades of robust research. Let's get into what KAP is, the history of its development, how it is used, and what to expect from a KAP

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We all know what it feels like to walk into a job interview, or onto a stage, or before some other big personal challenge with a racing...

Conflict is absolutely necessary for a healthy relationship. And yet, most of us struggle to do conflict well. Many of us are taught that...

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The 'flow state' is defined as the experience you might have when you are immersed in an activity where you lose sense of time and space....